There’s a lot of change these days and I start to understand that change is becoming the new stability.
Some of these changes are so radical that what lies ahead is truly unknown. The crocodile mind freaks out and wants to run away in panic mode and hide.
When our fight or flight is turned on, there is nothing we can do. Our body shouts and we don’t see clearly inside our outside.
Remaining calm and relaxed in these very intense moments is an art and the greatest help is actually not rocket science:
- I have trained myself to detect the panic mode before it turns on. The art here is to notice the body reaction – everyone has his own: increased heart beat, sweating palms, stomach tensing, faster and increased thoughts, muscle tension.
- As soon as I have detected the upcoming flight or fight, I decide to disengage from any story that my mind builds. It is a decisive moment, a tipping point which when persistently tracked becomes clearer and clearer.
- When I disengage, I watch my thoughts and body sensations as a pure story, a movie I do not want to take a part in. That’s the hardest part because our mind will enforce them: “are you nuts? This is no fiction, this is a total drama!!!!”. Many times I fall into the story but when I don’t give into the drama, then I am on the path to victory.
- From there I focus on the body and observe what is, breath deeply and let the rush pass. If the mind is disengaged, the body will relax and return to calm.
You will probably think this is too hard or that your drama is TRUE and not a fiction. I used to think this way and remember one thing: PERCEPTION IS REALITY.
The unknown is scary for as much as we dramatize it. If we trust we are held and that what is unfolding is just right for us, then we can open our arms and embrace what is coming.
I am stepping into a new life and much of this new world is so unknown that I can’t possibly grasp it and I have said to myself: don’t judge, walk with an open heart and trust that what you need to know will become clear just at the right time”.
This recipe has helped disengage from all the drama that sucked my energy and I continue to use it. There is of course another story: where does all the drama come from, why it is here? But that’s another story…
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With my gratitude.